Being a wife and a mom is a 24/7 job, where you can’t call in sick. There’s no watering down of the tremendous responsibilities that come along with being a mom and wife. Your responsibilities include but aren’t limited to chasing kids, teaching, feeding, dressing, and disciplining them, along with household chores and serving the husband- all to be done while looking pleasant and keeping on a smile. Within this hectic work schedule, you probably wish you could find some time to study Islam, attend lectures, learn Arabic, or do something “Islamic” not related to motherhood. Feelings of guilt start to build up and suddenly, the workload seems too overwhelming and you resent your job, because in your mind you’re not “doing much” for your deen. And you want to blame the husband and kids.
“Allaahu Akbar”. You’ve begun Dhuhur prayer, right hand over left, and eyes fixed on the ground. Just as you’re about to begin reciting suratul Fatiha you realize you left your lipstick on the floor, and now lipstick is on the wall.
Exercise is good for you! You’ve heard it many times. It’s good for your body, mind, and soul. You know. But if you’re like me, knowing the benefits isn’t exactly motivating enough for you to use that little spare time you get doing jumping jacks and lounges. I feel guilty enough that I don’t keep in touch with friends and family or read as often as I should. But what if I told you that exercise can be an act of worship and you’d be rewarded for those jumping jacks and lounges you dread?
It’s a typical weekend morning and your alarms goes off, or you hear the little footsteps of your precious one making its way to your room. Do you jump out of your bed excited and bursting with energy to start your day? Or do you moan and groan and bury your head in the pillow negotiating five more minutes?
Sometimes the biggest enemy when it comes to self-confidence is the self. We allow pessimistic thoughts about ourselves and abilities to control our actions, or, rather, lack of. And when we finally take that first step, we suddenly turn into some strict disciplinarian basketball coach who is overly critical of the best players and is hard to please. So we voluntarily sit out of the game, or warm the bench for the other players. We rather avoid self-destructive criticisms in the event of a loss instead of taking action on what we know will benefit us and our family. This is an issue of low self-confidence. Either we think we simply can’t do it and aren’t good enough, or we’re afraid of failing and thus validating our pessimistic beliefs about ourselves.
Congratulations! You’ve taken the first step to start memorizing the Quran; you’ve decided! Making the intention to memorize Quran is an extremely noble and lofty goal. The next question is, how do I do it?! Follow these steps to kickstart your journey to becoming a haafizah.