It’s a typical weekend morning and your alarms goes off, or you hear the little footsteps of your precious one making its way to your room. Do you jump out of your bed excited and bursting with energy to start your day? Or do you moan and groan and bury your head in the pillow negotiating five more minutes?
Oh how we would love to have enough energy and excitement to want to stay up past fajr, but the comfort of a warm bed after prayer is too hard to pass up, and that sealy mattress isn’t helping!
Really, as a mother we can’t afford to be lazy. We need the energy to balance all the different coloured hats we wear whilst keeping on a smile. Yes, the workload can be draining, and yes you deserve some rest, but the tranquility and mood of the household rests on your shoulders. When you start your day off right and full of energy, you set the tone of the day for not only yourself but the rest of the family. It’s the law of energy at work. Energized and positive moms raise active and happy kids! If you take a look at all the successful people in the world, Muslims and non-Muslims a like, they all have one thing in common; they all start their day super early. Not just bright and early, I’m talking it’s still dark and early! So how can we start our day early and fresh?
Here are 10 habits on how you can start off your day as an energized Muslim mom.
1. Plan out your day before sleeping
Before going to bed sketch out a schedule for the coming day. This way you wake up already knowing what to do, with set time limits. You wake up with a focus because you’ve attached a purpose to your day. No time is wasted thinking of what to do as its already outlined. I prefer a schedule over a simple to do list because writing out the time gives me a sense of urgency to meet deadlines. Without the time slots, I subconsciously tell myself that I have all day. And 8 times of ten the day ends with less than half of the things done.
2. Before going to bed say, Suhaanallah 33x, Alhamdulillah 33x, and Allahu Akbar 34x.
One day, the daughter of the Prophet , Fatima, radiyallahu ‘anha, went to request a servant from her father, as the housework and milling was nearly reaching the point of unbearable. The Prophet could have easily appointed a servant for her, but instead, with his divine wisdom, he advised her and Ali, radiyallahu anhuma, with the following:
“Shall I not teach you something better than what you asked for? When you go to your bed, magnify Allāh thirty-four times, glorify Him thirty-three times and praise Him thirty-three times. That is better for you than a servant.””
[Sahih Bukhāri: 3502 and Muslim: 2727]
This is proof that dhikr (rememberance of Allaah) strengthens the body. Make it a bed time ritual for you and your children to recite the different athkaar perscribed for bedtime. I must admit that ever since I started implementing this specific hadith, I’ve notice a jolt in my daily productivity.
3. Sleep on your right side
It’s a sunnah to sleep on your right side for a reason! Ibnul Qayyim mentions in Healing with the Medicine of the Prophet that sleeping on the right side prevents one from oversleeping since the heart leans to the left and out of its normal position leading the sleeping person to wake up when he’s had enough sleep. He further explains that sleeping on the left makes the heart comfortable causing the person to oversleep.
4. Pray fajr on time and in another room
Train yourself to pray at the athan of Fajr, not 30minutes or so after. Don’t give the snooze button a chance. Be eager for your first meeting of the day, your meeting with Allaah. If this goes well, the rest of your day should be filled with barakah.
Also try praying in another room, like the living room, somewhere far from your bed. This will help you fight the urge to go back to sleep.
5. Stay up after fajr
This is the time where barakah is found. The Prophet said, “Allah made the early hours blessed for my Ummah.”(Ahmed) Ibn Abbas, radiyallahu anhuma, once saw his son sleeping in the early morning and said to him, “Wake up! Do you sleep at the hour during which sustenance is being divided?” Haven’t you noticed the tremendous amount of things you’re able to accomplish when you start your day early? By 10:00am you have all items on the to-do list ticked off and you can’t help but smile at the clock, ‘wow it’s only 10:00am’. I know that if I start my day at noon, I don’t get half the things done compared to when I start after fajr. Those are my most unproductive days, and I’m usually in a not so chirpy mood.
6. Change out of your pjs
Whether its the weekend or you’re a stay at home mom, get yourself into the habit of dressing up in the morning. Changing out of your pyjamas into your day clothes will give you a boost in energy. You’ll automatically feel like you have things to do and places to go, and you do. Choose clothes and colours that uplift your spirits and put you in a good mood. Get the kids out of their pyjamas as well so that they learn to associate day time with productivity. Pyjamas are for sleeping!
7. Open the blinds and let the sun shine in
Not only can we use some vitamin D, but the natural light coming in tells our brain to reduce the production of melatonin, the sleep causing hormone. Less melatonin allows us to feel less sleepy and more alert. It’s amazing how Allaah, the Most Wise, created our bodies. Allaah has made the day for earning and the night for resting, and has programmed our brains accordingly. Subhaanallah!
8. Have a wholesome breakfast
Opt for foods rich in protein, and skip out on food high in sugar. Replace white bread with brown, and go for fresh juices or smoothies or instead of coffee. You want a smart and steady release of energy instead of the high and crash effect you get from starchy foods.
9. Pray Salat Ad-Duhaa
Salatu Ad-duhaa is a voluntary prayer prayed anytime after sunrise and before the sun reaches it’s zenith. Include these two rakah in your morning routine to maximize barakah.
The Prophet said, “In the morning, charity is due on every joint bone of the body of everyone of you. Every utterance of Allah’s Glorification (i.e., saying Subhan Allah) is an act of charity, and every utterance of His Praise (i.e., saying Al-hamdu lillah) is an act of charity and every utterance of declaration of His Greatness (i.e., saying La ilaha illAllah) is an act of charity; and enjoining M`aruf (good) is an act of charity, and forbidding Munkar (evil) is an act of charity, and two Rak`ah Duha prayers which one performs in the forenoon is equal to all this (in reward).” [Muslim].
What better way is there to start off your day then giving charity!
10. Take a nap
Being active and energized does not mean non-stop work. Close to the noon prayer wind down and take a nap, or just rest. Al-qaylulah (the midday rest) is actually a sunnah. It was the practice of the Prophet and his companions, the most productive people ever to walk the face of the earth. Taking a short power nap will refuel you for the rest of the day. You earned it, and you need it. Now get the ajar (rewards) for it.